When you are going through difficulties trying to create a family, it can feel as if the rug has been pulled from under you, or as if your life has been put on hold indefinitely. Struggling with infertility can have an effect on your emotional, physical, financial, and sexual wellbeing. It can also trigger significant feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, guilt, anxiety, grief and loss.
Planning to create a family can be one of the most stressful and rewarding journeys in your life.
I provide psychotherapy, psychological consultation, assessments and evaluations, education and referrals for those on the journey to family building. This may include those who are trying to conceive, dealing with pregnancy loss, difficulties deciding whether to keep or terminate a pregnancy, or post-partum depression; as well as those considering or undergoing infertility treatments such as IUIs or IVFs, third-party reproduction using egg donation, surrogacy, egg freezing, single parenthood, or same sex families.
Therapy will provide you with a safe and confidential place to express your thoughts and feelings and learn tools to manage your fears, disappointments, anxiety, etc. It can help you get clarification and assistance with the decisions you are facing. It can teach you stress management and relaxation techniques as well as other healthy ways to cope with the often unpredictable journey. Therapy can help you prepare for single parenthood, prepare and deal with life without children, or explore what it means to have a child who is genetically not related to you.
Assessment and Evaluation
- Egg Donor or Sperm Donor Evaluation
- Gestational Carrier (Surrogate) Evaluation
- Intended Parent(s) Consultation and Evaluation
If you are considering any of the above options, your fertility clinic or doctor may require the donor or surrogate to go through a clinical interview, psychological evaluation/testing along with a written report in order to determine the suitability or appropriateness of the donor or surrogate. Additionally, it may be recommended for you (and your partner) to consult prior to proceeding with your family building plans. I have performed many fertility-related evaluations the past decade, and am well-versed in what is required for a successful outcome. My role is to help facilitate meetings at my office between donors or surrogates and intended parents; as well as between known donors (ie siblings) and recipients. This will be done in a safe, private, and non-judgmental atmosphere that allows for open discussions and psycho-education regarding the various potential issues to consider.
Egg Donor or Surrogate
If you are interested in serving as an egg donor or surrogate, my aim will be to gather as much information as possible so that you and the recipient couple are well prepared. We will also try to determine whether or not you will follow-through, by not only asking about your feelings about serving as an egg donor/surrogate, but also by looking for patterns of stability in your past. It is important to spend time discussing the ramifications of serving as an egg donor/surrogate with you so that you can learn enough about this process in order to make the right decision for you.
Recipient (Intended) Parent(s)
Clinical Interview(s) with intended parent(s) is done in order to review the many aspects of assisted reproduction, which may include issues of boundaries, disclosure, expectations, loss and grief. There are many things to consider when using a surrogate, such as whether or not you will provide health insurance, or home support. It is a good idea to discuss what expectations you have with regards to a relationship with the surrogate both during and after a pregnancy. Discussing your thoughts and feelings about using a sperm or egg donor is important with regards to the possible implications on your relationships and/or other children/siblings. I will help guide you through this dialogue, and inform you so you can make the best decisions for this very important and life-altering event.